Understanding Grief and Getting Help


The next grief sessions at St Dominic Church will begin on November 11, and extend through December 16, in the Aquinas Room of the Ministry Center. This series will incorporate some suggestions for handling grief during the Holiday Season.

Grief is a journey many people face. It follows great loss, usually of someone very close, but sometimes the loss of a marriage, a job, or a home can result in the feelings we call grieving. Each person experiences grief in a way that is unique to that individual, but most circles through all the aspects of grief for varying lengths of time.
Everyone processes grief in their own way, some people need to talk, others just to listen at first. All can find a home at these sessions. If you know a friend or relative who is mourning, suggest they attend. It may be even more helpful if you offered to accompany them to the Grief Group.

Symptoms of grief, a person may feel:

  • numb
  • confused
  • disorganized
  • loss of appetite
  • problems with sleeping
  • deep sadness
  • guilt
  • anger (at the one who died or even at God)
  • irritability
All of these emotions are normal. There is no one way to mourn, nor is there a time limit to grieving.
A person who is mourning is fragile and needs the support of family and friends. They need encouragement to eat, to nap, to take walks for exercise. They need company at times, and to be left alone other times.
They certainly need to talk about the loss to tell their story. If you know someone who is grieving, be there for that person. Encourage the bereaved to join a support group, accompany them if you can.
We at St. Dominic’s want to support you on your journey. Our series is highly respected throughout Solano County, led by trained facilitators for Peer-to-peer support on the seven stages of grief. For more information contact Joanne Flanagan.
“No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear. I am not afraid, but the sensation is like being afraid. The same fluttering in the stomach, the same restlessness, the yawning. I keep on swallowing. “At other times it feels like being mildly drunk, or concussed. There is a sort of invisible blanket between the world and me. I find it hard to take in what anyone says. Or perhaps, hard to want to take it in. It is so uninteresting. Yet I want the others to be about me. I dread the moments when the house is empty. If only they would talk to one another and not to me.” — C.S. Lewis, opening paragraphs of A Grief Observed


If you’d like to support this ministry, either as a trained facilitator or coordinator please contact the parish office.
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Do you have a background in counseling or are you interested in getting involved in our Consolation Ministry?

 If you are interested in further information, please contact our parish grief ministry leader at consolation@stdombenicia.org.